i think you're quite nice. I hope you don't take most of these things seriously.
I think I’m nice too! Haha.
I’m only sassy when someone is deliberately trying to make up upset or angry. I don’t take this seriously at all, which is why I don’t understand the attempts.
Thank you though.
[GA] I don't know her age nor can I tell by looking at her.
I'd range between 18~30.
What's hard for me is that I've never been interested in other people or dating possibilities before I met her.
Am I stupid, naive or in real love?
How do I deal with it?
I feel like you haven’t had very much conversation if you don’t even know how old she is haha.
I don’t know what you are, but I’m going to say you should probably move on.
i can't believe that someone is making a comparison between you and ariel. obviously you are both different people, she has excellent answers and is honest just like you are. and to bring it down to insulting you, when you are very much a gorgeous girl.
Thank you, that’s very sweet.
Her answers are excellent, and most likely better than mine, but I hadn’t thought about it until now.
She’s beautiful, and I’m not taking the insult to heart (technically they said she was ‘more gorgeous’, which just means I’m not as gorgeous even though I’m sure that’s not what they meant haha). We’re completely different looking girls and people have their own opinions.
If that Anon ever reads this, then I’m sorry I’m not Ariel’s twin and that we have similar but still very different experiences, I wish I could’ve lived up to your obviously important satisfaction.
I think I’m done answering questions about this subject and the topic of heartbreak.
THIS JILL GIRL NEEDS A SLAP IN THE FACE, BITCH WHAT THE FUCK KIND OF THING TO SAY WAS THAT? ITS NOT HER FAULT. I OTTA SLAP YOU LIKE A HOE, WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS SHIT. 'BEST MATCH FOR HIM', GET FUCKED BITCH. 'HE NEVER EVER THINKS OF YOU', DUMB BITCH. FUCK.
…You’re so intense.
I’m crying laughing, this is amazing, who are you?
[Girl Advice] OR #2 seems most likely. Nothing really happened after the fireworks fail (she went w/ friends) other than I tried to keep the idea of dating open.
My problem is I'm jobless atm and have no confidence to initiate or fund dating
I also saw her driving a fancy looking car so I half suspect her family is well off. She seems to have everything and I nothing. Could a relationship even be possible?
She became cold just after learning I had no job ("yet"). (And my age, lol)
What is the age difference? And I can understand that, if she’s older she probably wants to know that there is even a hint of stability and responsibility in you.
I’m thinking she’s not interested, and if she cares too much about money and is that conceited you probably don’t want to get a girl like her anyway.
She sounds like a headache.
I’d move on if I were you.
why do people still asking you about Wheeler? It was years and years ago, and i am MORE than positive he doesn't think of you ever anymore. Why would he, he has Jill who is the sweetest/cutest girl and the best match for him
I don’t know, all of you are Anons so it’s not exactly like I can understand it. I’ll assume by ‘years and years’ ago you mean less than 2 years, in which time frame he has been with other girls.
I’m sort of thinking this is ‘Jill’ since you’re MORE than positive, in which case, congrats, but at one point or another, all of his girlfriends have been the ‘sweetest/cutest girls who are the best match for him’, I don’t think he’s ever been single for long.
I’m not sure the time frame from Spencer to Claire, while he was dating Claire he expressed an interest in me and the day after they broke up he made his move, and 2 weeks (probably less) after me there was Kirstin, but I don’t know how long that went on or if there was anyone else in between. I just think he doesn’t like being alone.
I really don’t care about this. People don’t care about the fact that it’s Andrew, they are interested in the way I felt. It could have been anyone.
Do you think he loved you/didn't love you, was scared/didn't care? That sort of thing? Do you think he regrets it? I think he should for sure, you're a good person.
I think at one point he loved me more than I loved him, I was the independent one, I was overly cautious all the time. We were only on the same level for a short period of time, he was always so unconfident but strong headed, sweet and tender but terrifying at the same time and all I ever wanted was to make him see himself the way I saw him. Eventually the nice aspects faded away so much that I felt like I barely knew him anymore, and I know exactly who I blame for it happening. I could have broken him when I met him, he was a mess, but he sort of stole what I had and flipped it around, and didn’t care in the end.
I hope he regrets it, if not now, someday when he’s an older, cranky, mean man haha. Why wouldn’t I?
Are you and Ariel good friends? What she said about you was so sweet, you both do a good job of standing up for each other.
No we’re not really close at all, we ran in the same circles at different times I guess. What she said was absolutely sweet, and I think she’s the kind of person who knows what she’s talking about, so why wouldn’t I do my best to stand up for her?
To the person below, I guess "a handful of times" was the wrong expression. I've been in love 2 and a half times. First two were my boyfriends of a year and a half, and another was a boy I dated all summer but never actually told him how I felt.
[Personal] I like that... comparing love to both sunshine and drug addiction. Would you actually explain what your life was like after the break up? Not 'how you handled it', especially since your situation was drug addiction and not the sunshine.
It was probably something like actual drug withdrawals.
I cried from the emotional pain maybe a small handful of times but I was in physical pain constantly, I had no appetite so I didn’t eat and lost a bunch of weight. I couldn’t sleep at all, it took me a while to realize I needed someone beside me, so either my mom would lay next to me and rub my back for a while, or I’d call Arielle at 4 in the morning and she would run to my house. It still took me a few hours to actually fall asleep, but it was never enough.
Eventually my friends stopped calling, they hadn’t seen me in a long time. I felt this constant pain like someone punched their way into my gut and ripped a giant hole into me, it was exhausting feeling that way all the time.
For 5 months, all I did was get up to go to work (I did co-op at this point), sometimes I would be there til 5pm, or 1am. It all depended, but either way, I poured everything into working hard. Then I would come home, eat and listen to music for maybe an hour, and sleep.
I never went out, I never talked to anyone recreationally.
I remember my mom being so worried, but she never, ever asked me to talk about it. She didn’t really have anything to complain about, I mean I was probably the most behaved daughter a mother could ask for. I was working hard, when I got home sometimes I would clean the entire house, and I slept.
I was completely content with being alone all the time, it was bliss, I feel like I never had stress, or anger, or anything really. I was a drone, but it was like heaven in comparison to the way my body wanted to die at night when I couldn’t keep my mind busy from thinking about him.
I never tried talking to him though, I didn’t send him emails or anything, I just fell off the face of the Earth, as if maybe everyone could forget that I existed and that I wouldn’t hurt so much.
I don’t think I’ve ever really, really described it before, you’re lucky you pulled the ‘personal’ card, I’ll have to deal with embarrassment on my own time.
I was comparing answers about heartbreak because I regularly read both yours and Ariel Riske's formsprings. I liked your answer better, her 'love' experiences seem to be more naive than sincere. Do you think a person can fall into real love a 'handful'...
...of times or is it more sacred and hard to come by? I can't stand when people have had 10 or more boyfriends/girlfriends and tell them all that they loved them after 2 weeks. I believe you when you say you were in love and that it could've been forever.
I had to read her view before answering this.
I don’t think there was anything wrong with her answer, everyone feels love differently.
As for Ariel, I’m not a mind reader, I can’t tell you how strongly she felt about anyone. If it was real for her then that’s it, whether it’s naive or what you would consider sincere, it was real for her.
I know what my experience was like, and I think that if I’d felt it a HANDFUL of times by the time I was 19/20 I’d just jump off a bridge.
I feel like it’s an extremely rare thing, finding a love that makes your entire being something so inexplicable.
I fear feeling THAT strongly about someone ever again, because the chances are it will ruin me forever, so I hope for love. True, peaceful love, where he is my sunshine, not my drug addiction.
Those people who say ‘I love you’ all the time just need to grow up, if people felt love the way it’s meant to be felt they wouldn’t take it for granted.
How would you want the love of your life to propose to you?
If no would be your answer to marriage, why?
It would completely depend on the guy. You create experiences and stories when you’re with a person, and every different person has different stories with you.
I would want it to be something that was really significant to us, something that maybe not everyone else would understand, but it would mean the world to me and him.
Whether that’s laying in bed, at the spot where we first met, or somewhere fucking ridiculous like a basketball game where he could completely and utterly destroy my comfort levels and cause me total embarrassment.
I don’t believe in not getting married, I just don’t believe in getting married for the wrong reasons. My mom was married once, she knew her husband for something insane like 3/6 days before he asked her parents for permission.
I believe in things like love at first sight, everlasting love, or having a best friend and one day you just realize it’s something so much more than you ever thought possible.
But I don’t believe in getting married until the time is right, until you’re both fully aware of what you’re in for and ready to accept it.
If the day came where I was with a guy, and we both fully loved each other but he said he didn’t believe in marriage, I wouldn’t really have a problem with that either. I’m okay with both.
[Girl Advice] Me again, remember?
The fireworks thing never happened but things seemed to be alright despite that. Things still remained very friendly until she just suddenly turned cold.
I don't wanna just say PMS and I'm confused.
I'm still interested in this lady, of course. Did she just have a bad week? (I haven't seen her since then).
Should I ask? What if it's personal and none of my business? I don't want to seem like I'm too pushy.
How would a girl want a guy to react?
Hey! I’m so amped that you’re following up with me.
I’m just trying to get this straight..
You didn’t go to the fireworks (bummer) but you went out somewhere else on a different day? Did you hang out more than once? Have you made a move yet, or at least voiced that you’re interested?
If it really is something personal, just tell her that you don’t mean to pry and if she doesn’t want to tell you then that’s her call, just that you were making sure she was alright.
But it’s most likely one of two (maybe three) things could be happening: PMS is a strong force of nature that can cause the most poised of women to act horrendously, so if you’re going to ask her that, just ask if she was having a stressful day haha.
OR she could just not be interested, she seems like a tough lady to please.
OR she could be interested, but is the kind of girl who gets tired of waiting around for you to get over being shy (I know I would be really frustrated with someone who is bashful around me after a while, I need a bit of exuberance to keep me entertained). Get your act together and woo the pants off of her! (Metaphorically…)
If she likes you, she wants you to be more assertive. You have no idea how much of a blow to a girl’s ego it is when a guy can’t just act on impulse (whether it’s actually talking to her, telling her how he feels, making a move). If she doesn’t like you, don’t be scared, because at least you’re finding out and she will let you know and you can move on before getting too attached.
I wish we could talk, we would have a lot in common..........
but there are too many reasons why it would never happen. do u ever get that feeling with certain people?
I dunno, I think it’s hard to approach someone with that honesty just because they may take it the wrong way. I seriously feel that if you wanted to talk and told me who you were that I would have no issue with it whatsoever. I mean if you think we’d have a lot in common, why would I pass up on that?
I definitely get that feeling sometimes, but I’ve been taking more initiative lately and I’ve been really pleasantly surprised.
So please, holla my way!
Easier? Why would it be easier? Easier how?
What's so difficult or harder about being a girl/woman?
I’m completely biased for this question haha.
Being a girl is hard in general, we have so much little shit to deal with all the time, and we are naturally so much more erratic than men.
I’d love to see a guy going through puberty the way a girl does. Freaking out about developing breasts before the other girls, getting your period, first crushes. I have distinct memories of girls being constant basket-cases and the guys just not giving a shit. I was always very envious of how leisurely it was.
Let’s not even get into things like equality or giving birth.
True heartbreak is one of the most painful things I think anyone can experience. It’s completely relatable to a death, and you can’t handle death either, it stays with you forever.
You just live, despite how excruciatingly impossible it is, that’s the only advice I have.
why does the hand holding pic with the tattoo hand make you hurt :( ?
Because in life, in general, people develop dreams and expectations and aspirations. When one works out you have more hope for the rest, you feel more complete, like finishing a level.
When it gets taken away from you, it hurts, and when you have to compensate for the negative you try your very hardest, but it will still always hurt.
The photo caught me off-guard, and that’s my simplest explanation as to why.
You’re such a waste of space, honestly, I’m right about you every time.
I’m so tired of giving you chances you don’t deserve at all.
If I don’t get a call tomorrow telling me you’re in the hospital, I’ll put you in there myself, jackass.
Leighton Meester (AKA Blair Waldorf) is definitely in this episode, as a dumb/hot/slutty piece of ass who keeps trying to get with House. It’s sort of the best thing ever hahahah.
Evening television is honestly all I have..